Frasier Star Kelsey Grammer has been openly pro-life in recent years, and now he’s bravely shared about his ex-girlfriend’s abortion in 1974 that still “eats at his soul.”  

It’s a stark reminder that abortion doesn’t only hurt mothers– it hurts fathers, too.   

While promoting his new memoir, Karen: A Brother Remembers, which tells the tragic tale of his sister’s brutal rape and murder, he delved deeper into what shaped his pro-life beliefs, including his son’s death by abortion, and how so-called “doctors” can betray the Hippocratic Oath.  

“I know that many people do not have a problem with abortion, and though I have supported it in the past, the abortion of my son eats away at my soul,” Grammer admits. 

In 1974, while Grammer was studying at The Juilliard School, his then-girlfriend unexpectedly became pregnant with their son. At the time, Grammer embraced the “pro-choice” lie, believing she had a right to choose death for another human being. Tragically, this is just what she did: she aborted their son, an experience that haunts Grammer to this day.   

“I never wanted her to accuse me of being unwilling to have the child, but I also did not plead with her to save his life,” wrote Grammer. “Six months before my sister was slaughtered, I volunteered to have my son’s body vacuumed out of his mother’s. I regret it.”   

After the death of his sister and son, Grammer’s life went into a spiral. Grammer began to self-medicate with cocaine and alcohol, notably on the 1980s show Cheers, which would catapult him into fame with the spin-off show Frasier.   

“It was at a time in my life when I was actually going through a lot of self-doubt, self-loathing, honestly,” he told The New York Post. “It was when I was drinking a lot. Ted (Danson) had just come up and said, ‘You know, I’m kind of mad at you that sometimes you don’t show up ready to go.'”  

He continued to struggle with alcohol and substance abuse, even getting charged multiple times for driving drunk and possessing cocaine, and staying at a rehab center. It wasn’t until a 1996 car accident that he leaned into Christian faith and started turning his life around.   

For many men, abortion grief is often taboo and not talked about enough. Even left-leaning Psychology Today noted that numerous studies on post-abortive men show “ambivalence, loss, grief, guilt, self-reproach, a feeling of responsibility, depression, anger, sexual dysfunction, depression, and posttraumatic stress response.” 

The long-term effects have also been studied and shown to be devastating, with many men experiencing “intense grief over the loss of a child and fatherhood, even after many years post-abortion,” according to Psychology Today.   

Grammer’s story is a cautionary tale about where abortion can lead, but it is also a tale of redemption, hope, and healing. And while abortion hurts men and women, choosing Life, even in difficult circumstances, is always worth it.