Life is not a game where you can play Creator, spinning your own reality and puppet-mastering people around you for your own pleasure — yet celebrity Paris Hilton seems to want to do just that in order to engineer her idea of a perfect family. Reports have come out recently showing that Hilton is playing with the conception of her newest child through in vitro fertilization (IVF), and her desire to have a certain kind of baby has led her to indefinitely freeze many embryos that just didn’t make the cut — and her reasoning is beyond chilling. Here’s what you need to know:  

In a recent interview with Glamour UK Magazine, Hilton revealed that celebrity and childhood friend Kim Kardashian had advised her to begin IVF in her thirties when she was single. She stated, “Kim had told me about it. So I had eggs frozen.”  

Putting potential medical and religious objections aside, choosing to extract and freeze one’s eggs is one thing as those eggs are not individual lives. Freezing embryos, however, is quite another thing, and that is where Hilton went next. She reported that when she began dating her now-husband just before the COVID-19 pandemic, the couple decided that “it would be more prudent” to freeze embryos.  

(Click HERE to read another SFLA blog entitled “The Pro-Life Take on IVF: Debunking the Media Hysteria.”) 

Apparently, the couple has “prudence” in abundance because during the shutdown, they froze 20 different embryos altogether — and according to Hilton, they’re still not satisfied. Why? Because those embryos are males.  

Hilton said, “Carter and I had already been talking about the future and then the world was shut down, so I was like, ‘What do you think about us making embryos?’ And he said, ‘Yeah, let’s do it.’ And we’ve done it seven times… I have all boys. I have 20 boys…I just went through the process again a month ago, so I’m waiting for the results to see if there’s any girls.”  

And what do you suppose will happen to those 20 boys who have been frozen for a couple years now?  

Maybe Hilton won’t ever get her girl, and she’ll relent and use one of them. Maybe she’ll get her girl after all, and still think, “Hey, let’s use one or two of the boys for fun now, too.” Maybe she’ll never use any of them — but you can probably bet a lot of money on the fact that she will never use all of them. A number of her children will become discarded because they weren’t what she wanted; because she couldn’t use them.  

(Click HERE to read another SFLA blog entitled “The Pro-Life Response to The IVF Dilemma.”) 

Is this what parenthood has become in our society? Parents picking and choosing which offspring are most “desirable” and then abandoning the rest? This is literally often what happens with embryos that are unwanted after IVF; parents cannot bring themselves to use the embryos, and they also cannot bring themselves to tell their IVF clinic to get rid of them — deep down, they’re uncomfortable because they know something feels off about it.  

 According to Dr. Christine Allen, a veteran embryologist who works deeply within the IVF field, embryo abandonment is happening on a mass scale within the United States. Couples ghost their IVF clinics, leaving frozen children in their wake.  

Dr. Allen said, “Abandoned embryos are a major problem and it’s everywhere,” stating that she believes there are “at least” hundreds of thousands of abandoned embryos in the U.S.  

Upon abandonment, IVF clinics have to decide whether to thaw out the embryos and throw them away as medical waste — and if the embryos aren’t abandoned, many couples choose this route, anyways, disposing of the human lives they created because they weren’t convenient for them.  

Hilton maintains that she’s taking this route because she is terrified by childbirth and traumatized by past incidents in her life. While we sympathize with her hardships, our own victimization can never be used as an excuse to victimize others — those 20 boys frozen away do not deserve to be discarded merely because she wants a girl or because there was one too many of them.  

Children are created perfectly — regardless of sex, race, circumstances of conception, and perceived mental and physical capacity — and they are not ours to customize like a doll or video game avatar. In whatever manner they come to us, they should be regarded as blessings to be protected and celebrated; that is true parent-child love.   

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