Self-identifying “queer” woman and rising popstar Chappell Roan joined Alex Cooper on the “Call Her Daddy” podcast where her not-so-hot take on children blew up media outlets and sparked intense debate nationwide.   

“All of my friends who have kids are in hell,” Roan said to Cooper as she expressed her reasoning for not wanting children. “I don’t know anyone who’s happy and has children at this age … I’ve literally not met anyone who’s happy, anyone who has light in their eyes, who has slept.”  

Roan’s statements are symptomatic of the cultural disease brought on by a damaging ideological wing of feminism – the belief that children are meant primarily as a source of happiness and gratification for parents, and buttressed by a prominent emphasis on self that simply has no room for sacrifice for the benefit of others.  

Any parent will tell you that it comes with difficulty. It comes with long nights, loud cries, and a seemingly endless supply of unexplained stickiness. Parenting is a long-game; it doesn’t yield the same immediate dopamine rush as posting a 10-second clip, basking in the glory of likes and comments, or feeling on top of the world for a few hours at a club on a Friday night.  

Parenting brings plenty of sacrifice. But sacrifices made for those you love most in the world bring a deep meaning and joy incomprehensible to anyone who’s had self too much at the forefront to give it a try. 

Roan isn’t alone in her anti-child tirade. The Cut, a liberal-leaning media outlet, wrote an article about the woes of parenthood, pointing to several studies that early motherhood is high-stress and often difficult and tiring.  

However, is it possible that parenting stress and enjoyment go hand in hand? One study seems to indicate that. A 2023 Pew Research Center study found that “The vast majority of parents say being a parent is enjoyable and rewarding all or most of the time, but substantial shares also find it tiring and stressful.”  

The study continues: “Mothers and fathers are about equally likely to say being a parent is enjoyable and rewarding, but larger shares of mothers than fathers say parenting is tiring (47% vs. 34%) and stressful (33% vs. 24%) at least most of the time.” 

The hard work of childrearing reaps its rewards in the long run, which is far more fulfilling than the instant gratification that Gen Z seeks relentlessly. Turns out, good things really do take time. And difficulty is often indicative of something worth doing. 

Perhaps that’s why Roan sees childrearing as primarily “hell” instead of the reality of parenting, which is challenging and tiring but also rewarding and enjoyable. Children aren’t mere accessories to make us happy or look good and be thrown out when we’re done. They are a lifelong commitment that leaves us vulnerable and brings us pain yet bestows unexplainable joy. 

For a person laser-focused on themselves, children are the living definition of hell because they require us to look past ourselves.   

And that’s how the abortion industry sees children – as “hell.” Maybe not in as few words, but when they feed women the lie that children are a “choice” once they’re already conceived and that their preborn baby’s life depends on whether they’re “convenient” for their lifestyle, and suddenly, we have a serious problem.   

While it’s easy to slam Roan, she’s a product of a poisonous culture that values selfishness over the most innocent among us who need parents to dedicate their time and love to raise them.  

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