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This page represents the groups most affected by abortion violence. They are often overlooked, their pain is ignored, and their suffering continues in silence. The abortion industry targets these vulnerable groups and thrives in moments of darkness and fear in their lives. Abortion victims deserve representation, authentic support, and advocacy. Abortion victims deserve to be seen and heard. Hear their stories and see their value.


"See Me Now as I learn of my unplanned pregnancy."

“I just learned that I am pregnant. I was not expecting this. I was using protection to avoid getting pregnant and do not feel prepared to be a mom. I feel very alone and am not sure what I should do. I had my life planned out. School. Graduation. Career. Relationship. Everything was planned out and now my life is a mess. How will I accomplish my goals and have a child? I know the father will not support me and I am afraid to tell my parents. I just feel so alone and scared and have no one to turn to. I do not want an abortion, but I do not see a way forward."

See Me Now as a woman who deserves to be empowered by life-affirming options.


"See Me Now at 4 weeks."

"It's an exciting week! My arms and legs are beginning as small buds, all of the sections of my brain are starting to differentiate, the foundations of bones are coming together, and my heart continues to beat (very quickly, I might add)."

The FDA approves the use of Chemical Abortion up until 10 weeks. During a Chemical Abortion, the baby is starved with a first drug (mifepristone) and expelled from the womb with a second drug (misoprostol). Women are sent home, alone, to expel their baby in the toilet, who may or may not have been killed by the first pill.

See Me Now as a person who deserves to be loved.  


"See Me Now as I feel pressured to abort."

"My future is so uncertain. I do not want to have an abortion, but I don't know how I will be a parent without support. The father does not want to be involved. He is pressuring me to abort. He even offered to pay to 'take care of it.' I am seriously considering having an abortion. The father refuses to help me, my parents are upset, and I have no support. I went to Planned Parenthood, and they told me an abortion makes sense for me and my circumstances. But I am not so sure, and I want to know if I have any other options. There must be support for women like me. Why is there no one willing to help me?"

See Me Now as a woman capable of choosing life for my child.


"See Me Now as a pregnant student athlete."

"I am pregnant, and I don't know what to do. I am a college athlete and I have been a track athlete for the last 12 years. I have a college scholarship, and I am worried that my financial assistance will be taken away and that I will have to drop out of school. I told my coach, and he threatened my position on the team and told me that I need to 'take care of it.' I feel so conflicted."

See Me Now as a dynamic force, capable of being a mom and student athlete.

Title IX protects pregnant and parenting students from discrimination. No one should lose their scholarship, grades, or success due to their pregnancy! If you or someone you know has been pressured to abort or discriminated against, contact StandingWithYou.org for support.


"See Me Now as a woman who struggles with my abortion experience."

"I'm 28 years old, and I had my abortion about 6 years ago. I think about it all the time. I always thought that I'd move past it eventually, but it's only gotten worse. Every time a TV show or program discusses abortions, miscarriages, or sad pregnancy stories, I cry uncontrollably. The decision for an abortion was emotionally painful, yet I didn't feel like I had a choice at the time. I was with a guy that I knew I wasn't going to end up with. I wasn't in love with him. I was with him because I was lonely, and vice versa. More importantly, I was still in college, and I wasn't ready to have a child. So, when we found out about my pregnancy, we knew what we had to do. I cried so hard on the day when the abortion was scheduled that the clinic could not go through with the procedure until a week after the first appointment. If I had realized how much I would regret my decision, I wouldn't have gone through with it. I think about whether it was a boy or girl, what he or she would have looked like, and whether or not he or she would have had my eyes. These questions tear me apart over and over again. Even though the baby doesn't exist anymore, its brief existence in my womb changed my life forever. I wish I could go back in time and change my own mind. I would hold my newborn child in my arms and never let go." - Jenny

Women, men, and families struggle with their abortion experiences often for their entire lifetimes. Read more stories here.


"See Me Now at 12 weeks."

"By the end of the first trimester, I have complex features like eyelids, nails, and tooth buds. My organ systems have been formed for a few weeks now and they are hard at work to get me ready for the outside world. There's also evidence that I'm capable of feeling pain at this stage. See Me Now as someone to protect, not suction."

An abortion at this stage of development or younger involves an aspiration machine that has 30x the suction power as a household vacuum. The abortionist suctions the small, fragile baby into a collection jar and scrapes the walls of the uterus with a curved knife called a curette to make sure no body parts or tissue (like placenta or umbilical cord) are left behind, which has been known to happen and causes dangerous infections. To that end, abortion facility staff 'reassemble' the baby in a back room for added assurance that no parts were left. No human deserves to be suctioned and pieced back together in a lab tray.


"See Me Now as a pregnant student who feels unsupported."

“I am a pregnant student studying early childhood education. I have always been a diligent and hardworking student, and I still work extremely hard, but I do not feel supported by my campus during my pregnancy. Parking is far from my classes, and they do not offer maternity parking spaces. Last week, I had an emergency doctor's appointment, so I missed my exam. My professor would not allow me to re-take which resulted in a failing grade. I know with support and accommodation, I can be a mom and graduate."

Discrimination against pregnant students is illegal. For support, go to StandingWithYou.org.


"See Me Now at 16 weeks."

"At 16 weeks, I am sensitive to touch, and I have been practicing using my vocal chords. I likely have some hair, my bones are hardening, and my mom can likely feel me move. See Me Now as I deserve to be respected, not dismembered."

An abortion at this stage of development or younger involves manual dismemberment, as the baby is now too large for a suction catheter. The abortionists dilates the cervix to gain access to the uterus, inserts serrated forceps, feels around for something to grab, and yanks body parts off the baby until only the head remains, which is usually large enough that it needs to be crushed to be removed. A sharp looped knife (curette) scrapes the walls of the uterus to ensure nothing remains.  No human deserves to be torn apart.


"See Me Now as a woman who deserved so much better."

“My name is Tonya Reaves and I died from my abortion. I was told abortion is safe and that it was the best option for me. I felt so alone and scared, but what other option did I have? I went in for my abortion at 11am on Friday, July 20, 2012. I had a Dilation and Evacuation abortion (my child was 16 weeks). My uterus was perforated during my 11am abortion and Planned Parenthood in Chicago did not call an ambulance until after 4 PM - FIVE hours after my injury. I was brought to Northwestern Hospital, traumatized after bleeding at the Planned Parenthood for hours. The hospital did what they could, but I died from my abortion later that evening. My life was valuable, and the abortion facility was looking to avoid scandal by waiting to call 911. I am a victim of abortion violence."


"See Me Now at 38 weeks."

"At 38 weeks, I'm considered truly full-term and all I'm doing in this final time leading up until birth is putting on a bit more baby fat. If I was born now, it's unlikely I would need any medical assistance. See Me Now as someone to snuggle, not poison."

Late-term abortions take up to 3-5 days. In these abortions, the baby is poisoned with digoxin which is injected directly into his/her heart. Digoxin causes a cardiac arrest (heart attack). The abortionist then dilates the mother's cervix, which is a long process, given the baby is so large. The abortionist administers another lethal dose of digoxin to ensure the baby's heart (which started beating at 21 days) has stopped. The mother is then given Misoprostol which will cause her to deliver a stillborn baby.


"See Me Now as a loveable little girl with Down Syndrome."

In the United States, 67% of preborn children diagnosed with Down Syndrome are aborted. People with disabilities must be welcomed and loved, not discarded for being differently abled.


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