Towards the end of October, our pro-life display was protested at UNC (The University of Northern Colorado). I peacefully approached the girls. I acknowledged that we have very different views on abortion and sincerely asked why they are pro-choice. I told them that I don’t mean this in a snarky way, but that I genuinely wanted to hear them out. I heard their reasoning and heart-wrenching personal experiences.
A major topic that they focused on is the case of rape. As a pro-life person, this used to be a conversation topic that I dreaded. I expressed that I believe rape is one of the worst things that could ever happen to someone and that our laws don’t punish the rapists enough. That it is terrible and not something that I take lightly. Not only has a woman in that situation been a victim of terrible violence, but she may even conceive her rapist’s child.
The mother then faces three options, none of which were part of her plan. Her first option is parenting. Many brave women choose to parent a child who is conceived in rape and have shared that they love the child immensely and have never once regretted their decision.
Her second option is adoption, which is a fully selfless choice that gives her child the best chance at a great life if she feels unfit or not ready to parent them. Adoption is painful but beautiful, and it’s worth noting that the number of couples facing infertility is roughly equal to the number of abortions in America.
Her third option is to have an abortion. This will quickly “solve the problem” of carrying the rapist’s child, but it ends the life of an innocent baby, punishing a child for their father’s crime, with is unjust and can never be undone. It can also cause even further physical and emotional damage to a person who has already endured such trauma. A civil society should never suggest violence as a solution to violence.
None of these options are easy. None of them can undo the pain that the woman suffered from the assault. However, one of these options is violent. One of these options intentionally ends an innocent human life and I can not be okay with that. That is why I can confidently say that abortion, even in the case of rape, is wrong.
Abortion in the case of rape begs the question… how should a just society treat people who remind us of terrible events? The abortion industry acts like they care about women who have been raped by offering the kill the baby, as if that will solve their problem. We, the pro-life movement, KNOW that isn’t true. It violently covers up a symptom of a bigger problem. Women who have been assaulted need love, care, counseling, and justice.
The protesting girls heard what I had to say and while they didn’t change their minds on the spot, they were able to hear where I was coming from. They were able to talk to a pro-life person who cared about them, which they claimed had never happened before. It’s a step in the right direction. Let’s keep facilitating dialogue!
If you are a pro-life person who doesn’t know where to begin when talking to someone who supports abortion, I suggest getting a training from your SFLA Regional Coordinator and/or checking out Equal Rights Institute (ERI). ERI is a steady apologetics partner of Students for Life whose mission is to help pro-lifers have better dialogues.
There are a lot of resources exploring the topic of sexual assault and abortion. Watch Josh Brahm discuss it in this apologetics session. I recommend watching it all, but the portion about sexual assault starts at about 35:00.
Although these girls didn’t become pro-life in the conversation, we had at least 10 other pro-choice students change their mind about abortion that day. You can do it, too!
Reflection by Christina Coffman, Rocky Mountain Regional Coordinator for Students for Life of America.