By Margot Loza, University of Idaho
Our Students for Life team at the University of Idaho tabled on campus to advocate for the love of a mother and her child around Valentine’s Day. But we also formed new bonds with the university’s feminist group to promote a healthier environment for women on campus. Here is how we did it.
The feminist group, F.L.A.M.E. (Feminist Led Activist Movement to Empower), was tabling about 20 feet away from us and maneuvered over to our table to argue as to why abortion should be the choice of a women. The air became tense, as usually happens with discussions about abortion.
We successfully were able to relieve the tension a little bit when I introduced myself and thanked them for what they were doing, passing out encouraging messages such as “you deserve love.” Can’t argue with that, right? I’ve found that finding common ground with the opposition can help soften their hearts, or at least make them open to conversation.
It turns out one of the girl’s name was Margaux, which is my name only spelled differently! See, we already had something in common! After the conversation was more personal, it was a lot easier to continue our discussion.
When the women asked what our mission statement was, we were honest as to declare the absolute goal is to abolish abortion but also to make a healthier environment for women who are pregnant or with child on campus.
They were really interested in that. Their eyes lit up and told us their plans of trying to get lactation rooms on campus. Ecstatic, we told them that we’d love to help out since we were working towards the same goal. I had no idea that this feminist group wanted to help get lactation rooms for nursing mothers on campus – that has been one of our goals and we were thrilled to be able to partner with another group to make it happen.
Because we were able to have a civil discussion and find common group, our Students for Life at the University of Idaho comfortably discussed the topic of abortion, formed a coalition with F.L.A.M.E. and promoted the love of a mother and child.
All this was accomplished just from tabling on campus with some posters, chocolate and flowers. People just want love and to be loved.
Fight for love on your campus and don’t forgot to try to find common ground with your opposition – you may be surprised at what happens.